THE BACHELOR - Where they at?

Some questions burn within us like tiny embers that never die.  Who named the colors?  How come there has never been a good movie about a banjo-playing cat?  What ever happened to Andrew Firestone from The Bachelor?

This week some of those questions have been answered by The Bachelor: Where Are They Now?  No, it wasn't called The Bachelor: Where They At? although that would have been funny if it was.

Hosted by Chris Harrison, this special took a look at the fates of some of our favorite Bachelors and Bachelorettes from seasons past - including Andrew Firestone, whose relationship with Jen sadly dissolved.  Or maybe not so sadly.  Andrew met a nice gal named Ivana and they just got married last weekend in what was undoubtedly a lavish wedding and reception on his family's estate, which looked like it was approximately the size of Oregon.

We also checked in with Matt and Shayne (still together), Bachelor Bob Guiney who has hooked up with an actress, and Aaron Buerge from the second season of The Bachelor.  Aaron was the only one who said he'd like a do-over.  He proposed to Helene, but things didn't work out and their relationship ended up lasting months instead of decades.  Aaron now kind of wishes he had spent a little more time getting to know a couple of the other girls.  The heart is a fickle and easily confused organ.

Trista and Ryan, on the other hand, have no regrets.  The first Bachelorette, Trista has a lot in common with this season's Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas in that they were both dumped on The Bachelor and then got a second shot at love by appearing on The Bachelorette.  She found the man of her dreams, Ryan, on that show and the two are happily married with a cute lil' munchkin in Vail, CO.  They seem sincerely happy.

To get some pointers from a couple who has shared their unusual courtship, DeAnna and Jesse visited Trista and Ryan at their home.   Trista in particular had some good pointers for DeAnna.  She advised DeAnna to enjoy the fun things that accompany being a Bachelorette, but to make sure that she established a real day-to-day relationship with Jesse away from the glamour and limousines and cameras. 

Ryan told Jesse to get in some time as a couple before they started having babies - DeAnna wants THREE KIDS before she's 30! - because once the kids arrive, priorities change and your life transforms.  He speaks the truth.

Will DeAnna and Jesse make it as a couple?   I give them better odds than Matt and Shayne from this year's The Bachelor.  I certainly wish them well.  I'm sure we'll be checking in with them next season to see how things are going - let's hope it's nothing but good news.

--Dave Campbell

Comments

[Deeann Yon]

I think Deanna picked the wrong one. He should of picked Jason a real gentleman, plus he has a real job. He should be the next Bachelor.

[deeann yon]

I nominate Jason to be the next Bachelor. He is cute, nice, has a personality, is a great dad and there are numerous qualities he has. Jesse has no job and has no personality and he has funny hair. He and Deanna will not make it. I sure hope Jason is around when she drops him.

[I LUV JASON]

I SAID ONCE BEFORE I WILL SAY IT AGAIN DEANNA AND JESSE ARE GROSS TOGETER! THERE IS SOMETHING BETWEEN THOSE TWO THAT IS TOTALY OFF. LIKE THEY ARE FORCED OR PAID TO BE A COUPLE. JASON IS WAY HOTTER THEN JESSE. THIS GIRL WAS CRAZY TO LET HIM GO. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I HAPPY THAT HE IS NOT WITH HER. SHE IS A NUT CASE. JASON IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE BETTER OFF WITH OUT HER. HE IS SOOOO HOT AND THE WAY HE WORE HIS HAT BACKWARDS OOOH SOOO HOT! I WANT JASON TO BE THE NEXT BACHELOR CUZ I WANT MORE OF HIM.

[Marcie]

It won't last. She won't like living in Colorado. He won't want to live in GA

[rebecca]

please everyone..take a breath. it's ok...think positive for once. you aren't in either of their shoes.
so happy for the both of you jesse and deanna, doesn't matter how you met, just that the two of you...soul mates...did!

[Erica]

I have to say I wanted Deanna to pick Jason but looking at how much those two are in love i changed my mind! If only I can find the same thing she has I would be the luckiest girl in the world too!!!! Good luck Deanna and Jesse!

[valerie frm san diego]

I just heard that they aren't together, is that true, because I lost a bet if they're split already. I hope they stay together and live a happy life.Everyone deserves to be happy, and who are we to judge what they have?
So, are they or aren't they?

[veronica]

I watched the "Where are They Now" (Bachelor & Bachelorette) last night...
I've never watched any of these shows until "DeAnna's" story was talked about soooo much... and how she got 'dissed by Brad'!! Then I was glued to the T.V.

Some of these Men & Women from the previous "Bach" shows - and mostly Women - I might add... always act the craziest when jilted by a guy - hilarious!! No wonder, guys look like 'deer caught in the headlights' and they shake their heads, (probably both sets - ha ha) lol!! Too funny! I guess it's 'cause some of these women invest sooooo much emotionally - and they hardly even know the guy - and they get "obsessed"!! LOL Kind'a like I've become obsessed with reading Dave's 'great columns' and all of these humorous, crazy ass, emotional, and ANGRY... blogs (comments)... lol

I'm sooo over "Jesse & DeAnna"... seeing them last night... 'what can U say anymore' ... it's pretty much all been said.... over & over again! :)

Jason would be an awesome bachelor... but who knows where he's at in his life and heart lately... but he sure was "Smokin' Hot".... ouch and a kind of guy who had it pretty much together, he's worth a second chance and look!!

[daria]

RUN!JESSE!RUN!

[kate]

what was going on with the last few seconds of the show with brad eating a sandwich and watching the proposal of deanna and jesse? was this a joke or what??

[lynn]

what is up with the brad and where is he now l realy want to know what he thinks of the proposal

[Debbie]

I think that Jason Got his heart broken. Let him try to find Love on the new season of the Bachelor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Ana]

I think the best of this Bachelorette season is the last part of the episode "Where they at?" showing Brad's reaction (by the way: none!) watching the Final Rose and proposal of Jesse and Deanna. LOVE IT!!!

[truthful]

I think Deanna and Jesse are gross idiots. They are disgusting togeter and like so fake like they are paid to be togeter also look like a bunch a hilbillies the way she talks and the way he dresses tells me alot.

[angiefromCanadaEhhhh]

The whole DeAnna & Jesse thing has gotten me soooo obsessed and perplexed...

I think I'm over it one minute, then I think about it again...

I truly wonder if she made the right choice. Only because my life almost parallels hers... (except for the fame portion of it)....

Jason HAS the WHOLE package... adventurous, gentle, kind, loving, forthright and someone who; when he says he LOVES you, means it... he doesn't look like he's going to HURL any minute!!

I truly don't see the "Love Connection" at all between her & Jesse. ??? Not that he's not a great guy - because he is - he's awesome too. They're both (D & Je) very dynamic people... but TOO much for EACH OTHER. They BOTH seem 'restless' together, especially Jesse... DeAnna looks restless too!!

DeAnna... check out the movie "The Holiday"... the Jude Law and Cameron Diaz portion of it!! (It isn't exactly the "identical" situation... but man, it sure comes close.)

Hind Sights 20/20...... Everything happens for a reason...............

Yes, that last 20 seconds with Brad eating a submarine sandwich... was very telling (like he could care less, who "the bachelorette chose".) Too funny!!

[wendy]

Hey Kate,
I just now watched the show and I saw Brad eating the sandwich too and then my DVR stopped recording. If you find out what that was about, leave another post for me! :) Thanks!

[veryobservant]

Forgot to mention.......

That's strange/weird... or purely coincidental:

The day that DeAnna brought the two guys to meet her family... Jesse and her wore the same outfits (identically) when "he" met her family on the first day... and they both wore the same identical outfit when they visited with Trista and Ryan in Colorado talking about their future.... what's up with that??!!

[Wilma Johnson]

If you have Jason e-mail or know how to get intouch with him I have the perfect match. My daughter she's 33 divorced twin son's 3ys, 5'6' Blond slim. Very attractive. Here is my e-mail wilmaj0545@yahoo.com

[fan of d & g]

I have to say that the only one that was right for DeAnna was Graham, whether she wants to admit it to herself or not. She made the biggest mistake of her life using her head to make the decision instead of her heart. She had already fallen in love with Graham from early on...you can see it in her face/eyes everytime she was with him. Her whole demeaner was different when she was with him than any of the others--I think she was her most beautiful, vulnerable, natural etc then..as another viewer commented "all was right with the world" if all was right with her and Graham that day. We all saw the love story developing in front of our eyes..that's why we're all so drawn in to this show(and Graham!)this season (and I don't think it was just editing; we weren't shown the love story of Jesse and DeAnna unfolding, not b/c they were trying to keep the finale secret, but b/c I don't think there was ever a love story between them to show us!) DeAnna said it herself, she was so afraid of going with her heart and picking Graham and then him not being ready at the final rose. Wow, if only she could've just took the leap of faith and given him the time he needed. He was feeling it too...he just seems a very level headed, cautious, man of his word type guy that's not gonna say something you want to hear unless he really means it..and he waits til he's sure that he means it! So, we all saw her force herself to send him away even though in the pit of her stomach she knew it wasn't the right thing. That's why she was doubled over crying outside on the bench. And with roughly 2 weeks left to "fall in love" with someone else, she was determined to do it (so as not to look like a fool, or like a Brad; I never thought Brad not picking anyone was that horrible of a thing..if he wasn't feelin it, he wasn't feelin it. I think that's better than what DeAnnna's doing now...picking someone just to pick 'em and trying to convince herself that "she's in love" etc. She's doing a pretty good job of it so far I guess. But you can tell all the sweet "honey" talk is not truly from her soul. She never once has mentioned butterflies or sweaty palms etc with Jesse. And I think she's trying to act "giddy" with him (with Graham, she was truly school-girl falling giddy) And then she's even still pissed/lashing out at Graham on the MTA 2 months later!? (just more to try to convince herself not to think about him) And even though Graham has said in interviews that he didn't think they were right for each other etc, I think that's more to help let her off the confused hook now that she's picked someone else. He was still pretty respectful to her on the MTA and you could see it in his face that he was hurt in the process too b/c he had real feelings for her that he was having trouble dealing with so fast. But that's what's so real!! So, poor Jesse (he's a great guy) but how can he not see that her heart was with Graham. I'm just so bummed that this doesn't seem right for all 3 of them. Maybe, maybe, I'm totaly wrong about her true feelings. But I think in time, when she has time to stop all the craziness for awhile, she'll be wondering what if. I hope she does, and takes the time to contact Graham again and give it a real chance (even though she's had an ugly attitude toward him on TV etc, I think that's just a defense mechanism that hopefully Graham could overlook) I'd love to see Graham on TV again, but I don't think I could watch him as the Bachelor with another 25 girls. But I could watch an "after the final rose..part 2" where they pick up with him and DeAnna finding each other again after all the drama. Now that would be a show!
Good luck to all...Jeremy and Jason were great guys too, just not right for DeAnna either. And I wouldn't want to see either of them as the Bachelor either. They've been thru enough in the public eye!

[heather]

to fan of d & g (graham)

OMG... are you kidding me?!

Sometimes when you want something you can't have it makes it seem so real and intense and passionate... BUT, then once you have it... believe me, you're better off without it, because it's just not right!!

She was attracted to his aloof manner, good looks (which, not to be mean about Graham, I just don't see)... and his committment issues... that's all she was attracted to... and the fact that he made himself so hard to get to know. Her nurturing side kicked in and she wanted to "help him & change him"... believe me, I've been with this kind of guy... it'll be a 'very long time' before Graham is willing to put himself on the line like that. He's not ready for change! She would've been sadly disappointed.

It would be like trying to make water come out of a stone!

[Cj]

I'm obsessed w/Jesse & Deanna! and I'm old enough to be their parent! I pray Deanna's father changes his behavior around Jesse & his family. I also hope Deanna isn't like him...so know-it-all & judgmental.