In Need of a Friend

This week, Starr had her mind on other things besides herself and her baby. Her focus was on her BFF Langston. She’s wondering if she’ll ever see Langston again. She’s really scared for her. She’s also really scared at the thought of going through the next month without Langston. How could Langston not be there for the birth of her baby? Langston is always there for Starr. The fear of not having her there to talk through things is huge. Langston has helped Starr, especially this year, get through some pretty major things. She feels like she lost Cole as a boyfriend and now she might lose Langston. It’s too much.

  At this point, things are starting to look up and her friendships are starting to get better. Starr and Cole are even starting to make some progress working through their problems. If Langston goes away, they might all break up as friends because Cole hangs around because his best friend is Langston’s boyfriend.

This week, while Starr was concentrating on Langston, I didn’t really get the chance to watch the show because I was delivering the baby. It was crazy because I found myself feeling that the "baby bump" was a part of me. For the last 9 months, it kept growing and feeling more and more real. So when I went up to tape, I knew that when the scenes were over, it would be small again and then it would be gone. I didn’t think that taping the birth scenes would hit me so much, but they did. I went up to set and walked into the hospital room, got into the stirrups, Kassie was there in her scrubs and all of the crew that I’ve grown up with watching - it was hard not to cry. It was a crazy experience. It brought back all of the memories of this year

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being a part of this story. It made me think about what this story has meant to teens and their parents. This week was really a memorable moment in Starr’s life and mine.

I am so exhausted and I didn’t really give birth. I even go a little sick. I think this is the first story that has made me actually get sick because it was so emotional and intense

The night before taping the scenes, I barley got any sleep because I was so nervous. I don’t want to say anymore at this point. I will elaborate as we get closer. It’s too good to spoil

I can’t wait for you to see it

‘Til next week

XO
Kristen

Start talking with your parent or child with tips from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy:

Starr is going through a lot right now – friends, school, relationship stuff, family drama – not to mention the pregnancy. Imagine if she were also preparing to be a mother – getting her house ready, making arrangements for a pediatrician and daycare and everything else, plus making sure she has all the supplies and support she’ll need for the baby. It’s a lot to handle at any age, but especially difficult for teens.

Having a baby is a wonderful, magical thing – but it’s not easy. Motherhood (and fatherhood too!) is life-changing. It is not something to be entered into lightly or without in-depth consideration for what it all means. “If it happens, it happens” is not a good reason to start a family. Especially when you still have to finish school and you’re not done growing up yourself.

Being a teenager is hard enough – look at all the things Starr and Langston are going through that have nothing to do with pregnancy. Look at the all the things real life teens go through every day. Bringing a baby into that mix isn’t the best idea. Babies need grown up parents who are committed to each other and committed to raising a family.

For more information about love, sex, relationships, contraception and waiting, please visit http://stayteen.org/whats-your-relationship-reality/default.aspx

Comments

[Michelle]

I love watching Kristen (Starr) daily..and I agree that you should be grown up and mature enough before you even begin to think about having children :) Much love to you Kristen..keep up the great work!! xo

[Lynda]

I really love this storyline. But at the same time it feels like it's been going on and on. My mom and I have this bet going on that Starr will end up keeping the baby herself, and that will hurt Marcie. I've read other comments where people are telling you that you should keep the baby(well actually Starr), because you have all the family and friends around to help you. I actually do agree with them. If you didn't have the love and support of your family then I could understand giving up a child, but I hope it goes the way I'm thinking it will. I love soaps, there's always a huge shock one way or another. But this storyline is the best I've seen in a long time. You Kristen are doing a wonderful job and I hope you stay with the show for a very long time.

P.S. I really hope Starr and Cole end up getting back together. They're the cutest couple.

[Hannah]

I feel the same way. I mean for the last two years Starr, Langston, Cole, Markko On life To Live has been a part of my life. I can't wait to see Starr giving birth because it gives teens a chance to know what would happen if they did get pregnant. I've grown as Starr grows and if she stops I stop, you know? Shes a part of me and thats what I love.
xoxo
Hannah

[koola]

heeey kristen i can't believe wats clint has done/ywo story lines in on shoe i like!not to be cold but the thing happening with langston makes oltl more intresting to watch for me . iamd soo glad that sttarr and cole are getting along and actual talking . i hope that that can devolpe into much more if you know what i mean. langston is being strong and i luv that starr is not thinking of herself and is right by langston side lik she was for her. in the end i have a feeling that langston is not going to columbia b/c cramer womesn always come out on TOP!

[LISA]

Dear Kristen, As a 42 year old woman who has tried to have a child naturally and to adopt for the last 4 1/2 years, I am touched by the way your character has done the most generous loving thing for her baby and for Marcie. I know Todd will make trouble and no one will have a smooth run, but I hope the baby ends up with Marcie & Michael and lives happily ever after (such a romantic). You are doing a great job for teens as well.

[Serina]

I am a 34yr old mother of 4.When I was 16 I got pregnant by the time I was 17yrs old I had my baby boy.It was hard for me to raise him when I was younger.But now he is 17yrs old & he is getting ready to be a daddy himself in December of this year.I told him that it's not gone to be easy at all.He can't wait until his son is here.His GF & him are naming the baby after him.I just hope that the baby will be healthy when he is born.

[Cindy]

I cant wait to see what happens with starrs and coles baby... And I hope her friend dont have to move away... Thats it have a good week..

[Angela Barrriett]

hey starr dont be sad im your friend if you need to talk to me you can i am at warm springs

[Angela Barriett]

hey starr what are you doing right now my friend selo is being crazy today

[Angela Barriett]

hey starr gest what i got to tell you something how can you dell with your boyfriend thats gone and he lives far away from you and he never call you and he gives you the wrong number to you what do you do starr im at warm srings

[angela Barriett]

hay starr gust what my friend desman is a big baby i just playing with him

[chauntel]

so i have been watching your storyline and i can so relate to it..i myself had a baby at 16.i was in my sophmore year pf high school and ha dto go most of the year pregnant and then i deliverd that summer..i thought about quitting school and just working but my grandmother whom i lived with at the time. she told me that if i was going to quit school she would never watch the baby and would not help me..so needless to say i finished school and i am now 26 with 6 childern and i love them so much..i want to speak out to the teens out there and tell them that us parents cant stop u from having sex but we can make u aware of what could happen if i choose not to protect urself...having a baby may seem cool at the time when u are young but really u loose ur friends and u are all alone,,,now they may say they are with u til the end and some may like langston to starr but most dont want to be botherd or their parents wont let them so please think about what could happen if u do have sex and please be protected.

[Samantha]

Hi! This is great! Cole and Starr are starting to make progress with each other. i just found out that my 20 year old sister is expecting. I feel like this show changing for the better and my sister's new is too good to be true. well hope everything keeps on getting better. Love ya, Kristen.

[Jami]

when in November do you know when Star has her baby do you know

[Msboopdeeboop]

Do you know when in November Star will have her baby

[Ashleigh]

Wow Kristen you are definatly my favorite on One Life To Live. Starr is the reason i started watching this show. I just turned 17 a week ago but i had a baby when i was 16. I was pregnant when Starr first got pregnant. It is nice to go through it with somebody and well Starr was my girl. I fortunatly still have my babys father with me. I really hope to see Starr and Cole get back together. They are great. I would also love to see Starr change her mind and keep the baby. Although that would hurt Marcie pretty bad. As long as he/she doesnt end up with Todd. My mom and my aunt and my grandma have watched this show for as long as i can remember. They always said that i looked and acted like Starr. Haha and if she ever needed a replacement i would be good. No no. You rock. Keep doing what you are doing Kristen.

Ashleigh

[Kayla]

Watching the show has really helped me wright an essay for English Class. We had to right about abortion and whither we thought teens under 18 should have parental consent to get an abortion.

My ESSAY:
Abortion
Should teens under eighteen be able to have an abortion without parental consent is the question. Teens should not have to have parental consent when having an abortion. If a teen ends up getting pregnant then they have to decide if it would be a good idea to bring a child in the world they have to look at their options and decide what would be best for them and the child. Also it is their body and their child that will be living in side of them. If they get pregnant then they had lacked responsibility to make sure that it would not happen so I believe they can make their own choices from the situation.
Teens have a lot of stress to begin with in the first place with school, sports, home, and other things going on that keep them busy on a day to day schedule. Then say a teen gets pregnant then they have stress on whether or not to keep the baby, what will people think of them, and also how will this effect the rest of their lives.(AACAP) Babies are a huge reasonability and they take a lot of care and patience and most teens do not have that to give at that young of an age. It should be their choice to make if they feel the best thing is to keep the baby.
Teens bodies are not yet developed and they are still growing which makes the situation harder because there are a lot of compilations that could happen when a teenager decides to giving birth. For incense the teen could die or the baby could, also they could be very premature and the teen may not be able to carry it to term. In twenty states you do not need parental consent.(teen abortion.htm) So why in the other 30 states should they not have the choice. So teens are even going as far as going to another state to have an abortion so their parents would not have to give parental consent.(AACAP)
If I teen gets pregnant then they lack the reasonability to make sure it did not happen. So it should be their decision to decide. They have to think about the life long outcome that will happen. Can they live with themselves if they had an abortion or could they be able to accept the reasonability of a child and paying for them and taking care of them and their needs and giving them unconditional love.
No matter what the teen decides they should still have the option of abortion to consider. Most people know themselves good enough to relies if they should or should not have an abortion. It depends on your situation and was it accidental or planed but for most teens pregnancies are not planed. Teens should still have the option because they are their own person and have to make choices for themselves.

[emily]

kristen,

you're doing a great job with this story line keep it up!!

emily <3

[Angela Barriett]

hey starr what are doing today we need to hang out with some hot guys at the bar

[An oltl concerned fan]

Kristen I was just reading the paragraph before stay teen.org website. And it said that parents need to be commited to one another to make a family work. Well my question for this week is "Aren't STARR & COLE comitted to one another?" I know they aren't ready to be parents but i mean they are comitted to each other and their love is real. Most teenagers just say "i love you" to be saying it, right?? But when starr and cole say it to each other i can tell THEY MEAN IT!!! I only have another question, "Do YOU & BRANDON love starr and cole's relantionship?? My last question is... "WHY DO THE SCRIPWRITERS WANT TOOD AND MARTY TO RAISE THE BABY, WHY CAN'T THEY JUST LET MARTY KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT COLE AND MOST IMPORTANTLY WHY CAN'T THEY JUST LET MARTY'S MEMORY COME BACK???????????

i will wbs,
XO,
Emily J!!

[Essie Boyles]

Hi Kristen I just wanted to type you and see how you and the baby are doing?? I have a son and my son is almost 2 months old and I am having a tremendous time with him. Well I thought I might type you because I am one of your biggest fans and hope we can become friends..

[Courtney]

Hi Kristen! You are doing such a fantastic job on the pregnancy storyline! I am so happy One Life has taken on the subject of teen pregnancy. You are truly an amazing actress. Keep up the awesome work!

[Lanelle]

Starr i really hope you kept the baby I think Cole deserves to have his baby as much as you get to make decisions I am a young mother to three children I could never imagine handing one of my babies away and I know how difficult it is to be a highschooler pregnant i was 16 with my first son Austin who is now in acting and watches your show daily and I also have a 6 and 4 year old after him...

[preagnet teen]

HI KRISTEN,i love the way you are being so nice to marcie but i think COLE would love the baby by the way IM sixteen and I was preagnet i was stupid he was 20 years old and he was a great guy by every day but than he got hooked on drugs he told me he was done after a month i belived him so on prom night i told him meet me at 10 at a hotel and he knocked me up thats whan i got preagnat he couldnt see me for nine months when the baby was born i let him hold her and he was the guy i fell in love with its been 3months and my baby is one and healthy and my bf is out of rehab and now we are hapy thanks for listning, see ya

[sydneyrios]

hi starr i am happy tat your baby is due now r u starr please tell me and langton