Graham in the Hot Seat

Here's Graham, who is clearly a crowd favorite, judging by the catcalls.  "It's like a construction site in here," Chris Harrison says.

Here's a video retrospective of the steamy and contentious relationship between DeAnna and Graham.  There's bonus Limo Ride of Shame interview footage of Graham as well.

Chris grills Graham about why he couldn't open up more.  The psychic, Ellen DeGeneres, and even Graham's mom said that he was scared of or unable to commit or open up.  Graham feels like he didn't get enough credit for the opening up that he did, and that he's more of an actions-not-words kind of guy, unlike the other guys.

Comments

[Nelly09]

Like I said - they were different and everything was so fast for Graham. And maybe too slow for De.
Bt, I must say he is so cute.

[GrahamFan]

So, I don't even care what Graham said. He is beautiful and everytime he smiles i get distracted. I thought he spoke well but i really just wanted him to say im in love with Deanna and we have secretly been dating since the show ended haha

[Ohio]

Graham is a hottie! I hope he finds the sincere person he deserves to bring into his life. Best Wishes Graham! :-)

[debbyjean]

soooo, let me get this right.....graham thinks he did enough to impress her by excepting a rose?????
he is either the worlds laziest lover or the dumbest!
look out ladies....this is a guy that will never buy a gift for christmas, birthdays,anniv. or anything, because him staying with you should be gift enough for you!
Graham....check your ego buddy! your not that great of a catch!!!
RUN GIRLS.....RUN!

[debbyjean]

OH YEA GRAHAM....LETTING HER GIVE YOU A ROSE IS REALLY PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE. HUMMMM, ITS HER KEEPING YOU DUMMY, NOT YOU ALLOWING HER TOO!

[Pete from Chicago]

Hi,

I am familiar with the show but never watch it till tonight because of my visiting family and my married sisters.

That being said, here is how I see it with regard to Graham.

She "google-eyed" him because he is a pro ball player looking to fulfill her dream of livin fabulous life i.e. Eva Longoria.

Who is kidding who here. I am perfectly fine with wanting to mate with someone successful but she was looking at wanting to continue past the shows ends a stars life by hooking up with Graham.

Graham, not opening up? Again be serious. He what the hecked this looks like fun to be on the show but when she got "google" eyed he was really saying, "Ya a one "nighter" sure but a Jessica Biel she is not so b-bye bye and let me be a little jerky so I can play it off cool when trash talking with the boys...if that makes sense.

I am confident of who I am and being an entrepreneur so no jealousy here and by no means mocking the shows entertainment value but I already ran fast away in past from two women I dated who told me they are fanatics of the show because if somehow I where to marry either one it was a divorce waiting to happen.

Men or women admire and look to be able to have a mutual high regard, cool..waiting to be prince charmed swept off their feet? not for me and livin in lala land of unrealistic dreams and real life.

Enough rammmmble, have a great summer and the best to all searching for that one to love.

Pete from the Windy City.

[Team Graham]

Ok, DeAnna still wants Graham...she is still too angry and hasn't let it go...Jesse and Jason are sweet, but come on...she loves Graham, sorry boys!

[Nancy]

Graham should be the next Bachelor show! Girls like to see him more!!!!

[murfsopinion]

I'm sorry, Graham cannot speak at all. He reminds me of my ex. way to many years waiting for actions to say what he is feeling or thinking. It never works! Deanna did the right thing! I am for Jason now although I was really starting to like Jeremy.

[justtrying2mattertoo]

How do we nominate Graham for the next bachelor, I definitely want to see Graham more..

[Missi]

Graham needs to be the next Bachlor because i hate the thought of never seeing him again.. DeAnna still has it for him BIG time!!! Other wise she wouldn't of been so bitter tonight towards him.. She is trying to convince herself that she is over him but she still wants him... Who wouldn't??? He is so Hot!!! Please make him the next Bachlor!!!!!!!

[Nancy G]

OK I GOT TO SAY THIS..no one seems to see beyound the point, Graham is NOT saying, I think accepting a rose is enough, you have to read between the lines here, he is saying he has never let his guard down to get hurt, the same thing she is avoiding. He is the kind of man that only shares his life and personal feelings with a wife, which if she could have been more open minded and not so shallow she would have been, GRAHAM was the man to marry, he has never shared any of his personal life with ANY other women, dont u get it, that is the prize, his mom said he has never opened up to anyone, everyone took that wrong, he DID let her in, he brought her home, which means he thought she was very special, and he did love her very much, he wanted to share those things with her, but she wanted the cart before the horse. You have to give in order to get, somethings are worth waiting for, and that is what he had to offer, someting he NEVER gave to any other woman, now, she will choose someone that has shared the same with probably many other women before her, nothing special, if she wanted to be the fairy tale princess, the cinderella, she should have chosen Graham, he would have made all her dreams come true, she constantly down played him, insulted him, and so on, so what does anyone expect....what kind of response did everyone expect? I hope someone understands what I am saying, most people take "personal things" for granted, however it is cherished by him, that is a special trait,she will not find that again, Sorry Graham, you will have to find someone less shallow hun, but it will happen, hang in there!!

Graham held his own tonight considering he was on national TV. He is very handsome with a good sense of humor and hidden ego. I don't think he has problem meeting women, but I don't think he got the point that was being made tonight. What he considers going to great lenghts emotionally for him his for the most part normal and typical when starting a relationship. DeAnna had nothing to go on that he was taking risks emotionally with her. She didn't know him before so she had nothing to relate it to. Best of luck to all.

[Julie]

I agree with Nancy. Deanna wasn't for Graham. The right girl for him will be patient with him and love him for who he is. Too bad I'm not 10 years younger! I can't take my eyes off him.

[sdj]

I do feel a little sorry for whomever she chooses, because she has definitely got some "Jeremy/ Graham baggage"....eekk... if I was the new fiance, I'd definitely be curious if she is still carrying around those feelings.

[murfsopinion]

Although I think Graham is hot and all he STILL cannot hold a relationship past 4 months. His mom told it straight up...he does not let people "in". Your mother should know you best! Deanna made the right choice.
I am glad she let him go..imagine the next 20 years trying to get a peep out of this man?
Jason is my pick...she wants several kids in a short time..boom she has one! or...she could choose Jesse and wait for him to be ready to leave the snow! he is just a kid!

[NA_NA]

Graham is hot! I would actually apply just to meet him!lol

[AB]

Nancy G. you are right on! I think DeAnna still cares for Graham and I believe that he cares more for her than she will ever know. Did you see the expression on Graham's face when she said that she was engaged? I think DeAnna was rude to him. Nothing against Jason or Jesse, but it will not last with them. It seems that she just wants to get married and if anyone is not ready, she dumps them. Oh well, she will have to pay the price. ABC, PLEASE BRING GRAHAM BACK AS THE BACHELOR! GRAHAM, IT'S DEANNA'S LOSS!

[SS]

I personally thought GRAHAM was adorable. I feel it was really hard to put all of his feelings out there on national t.v. He could not stand to see her around other guys...kissing other guys...which are normal things that most guys who care for a woman do. She wanted him to be Jeremy...but Jeremy was sent home too...so maybe she doesn't understand why Brad didn't choose her...but maybe it was because she is in the same shoes with her final...not sure...but doesn't want to seem like Brad. GRAHAM FOR THE NEXT BACHELOR

[snj]

There were times along the way though when I wondered if Graham really even liked Deanna that much. The way he would kind of laugh at alot of the serious moments and other times when he didn't seem that into her. I wish they would have straight up asked him tonight if he really liked her that much....

[Barbara]

Graham is definately in the eye candy category. I'm concerned for him because his past relationships have been too short-lived. It sounds like he (or they) bail out before the relationship gets a real chance to develop. Another concern is that he said to DeAnna, 'that's just the way I am.' I understand if you take things slow - there's wisdom in that - particularly when you're as attractive and in pro-sports and likely getting hit up on a lot. I also understand when both personalities are a little fiesty, it will take a little extra time to work thru the relationship as well. But the words 'That's just the way I am' are anti-relationship words. They sound too stagnant - too 'set' - like concrete. A relationship needs growth and flexibility - on both ends. I hope this has been a positive, eye-opening experience for him and that Graham finds someone who will understand him and love him through that growth, and love her way into his heart.

DeAnna hit the nail on the head when she said they deal with things differently. Different isn't bad - it just takes a little more effort and time...something the show couldn't provide.

[Barbara]

While I'd agree that we'd all like to see more of Graham - I don't think this is the right show for it. He needs a lot more time to build a relationship than this show could afford. While I think Brad did the right thing (since he couldn't look anyone in the eye and tell them he was in love with them), I really wouldn't want to go through another season ending like that one. I say if you want to see more of Graham in an element he's himself and more comfortable in - watch pro-ball.

[Marlene in Miami]

Graham seems like a man's man.. a proud and private person who, instinctively, guards his heart. It probably took a great deal of courage for him to extend himself in such an intrusive environment. Although he doesn't seen comfortable expressing his thoughts and emotions, he does appear capable of deep feelings. His efforts with DeAnna went unnoticed because they were measured against the actions of the other men. Graham may have done what came naturally to him, versus treating the relationship like a race or a competition. Only Graham knows how much he stretched himself in order to get close to DeAnna. What's obvious is that it wasn't meant to be. Still, it must have been hard for him (and for Jeremy) to listen to some of DeAnna's 'harsh' comments tonight. He handled himself with grace, and he remained a gentleman. Good for him.

[HOT for Graham!!!]

I think Graham is hot and I would so move to North Carolina to be closer to him. I can relate to having a hard time opening up, but I would get him to open up no matter what it took. LOL :)

[tracey]

• She does not want Graham, yet she insults him. ( on national television)
• She wants the perfect man, yet she sends him home.
• She wanted them to open up and be themselves and be there for her, yet she sends Jeremy home.
• She knows how they feel and she wants their whole heart, even though she has only given half of hers.
• Everyone is breaking her heart, but she never gets recognized for breaking theirs.
Graham may not scream that he loves her. I don’t blame him. I don’t think Graham has closed him self off from Deanna, I think that he chose to approach her differently and she didn’t like it. She wanted him to be all over her and that’s the only way she knows how to express herself. Has anyone noticed that every time some one “expresses their love for her” she kisses them? Silencing herself behind a physical motion? When I first began to watch this show, I had my hopes up for Deanna. I wanted her to find true love and “fill that void that Brad left behind. However, after watching closely how she dealt with these guys and her front runners, Jeremy and Graham, I can’t honestly say that she deserves true love.
I did not like Jeremy at first. I had no particular reason except for he was Graham’s strongest competition, but after watching and witnessing his story, I feel sorry for the poor guy. He lost his parents, people. His mother and his father, and even though he probably did mix that link that they shared together involving the lost of the parents as love, but he does truly love DeAnna. All she can say to him is that he is perfect, but she did not want to mix that bond of lost parents with love and I’m sorry. Sorry does not cut it because she has been begging these guys to open up and do this and that and the main one who did it since day one, she sends home. What does that say about her? I smell hypocrite. The way she spoke to both Jeremy and Graham was disrespectful and rude. There is a fine line between assertiveness and arrogance and she has proved beyond that. She had the audacity to compare Brad to Graham. Graham is a nice guy. You can clearly see that tonight. He did not want to fight with her, even though it was hard to see her, he didn’t fault her for anything. He remained classy, respectful and a true gent. She’s the one pointing fingers.. She took what he did in her own way and that’s not Graham’s fault.
And for people who don’t like Graham. . . . . . . Listen. Graham may not like to express his emotions verbally. But when he does speak. LISTEN. He doesn’t want to hurt Deanna in any way, even though she has hurt him. Why should he tell her that he loves her? Jeremy did it. Look where he is. All of this happened between 4 to six weeks. Graham was telling her, hey, let’s truly get to know one another so see if we can work in the long run. Not, hey I love you Deanna, I’m ready to marry you and oh, what’s your last name again??? Let us be true to our hearts and ourselves and let us see things from the guys side instead of Deanna. They should have like a double bachelor and make Graham and Jeremy be the two bachelors with only 10 girls apiece or something like that. Nancy G, I completely understand where you are coming from.