Graham - Raleigh, NC

We're heading south to Raleigh to see Graham's 'hood.  She 's super huggy and excited to see him.  They play a game of one-on-one in the high school gym where Graham grew up.

Although this is where he grew up, Graham doesn't live in Raleigh anymore.  His folks are still in town, and Graham assures her that they'll love her.  He's really chatty and at ease with her when he doesn't have a bunch of other guys to stress him out.

Comments

[Ang]

I honestly think that Graham had genuine feelings for Deanna but struggled with opening up for fear of being hurt himself. Sometimes its difficult to let the walls down. I think she missed out on a great thing for the same reason...FEAR

[Jesse's Girl]

Yawn...what an incredible bore this guy was. He needs to get some fuzz on those peaches before he can find a girl. If she doesn't choose Jesse, she's a fool

[Maria]

She cannot go wrong with the daddy guy; she cannot go wrong with the jeremy guy she has loved from the start; she cannot go wrong with Jessie who is not a Brooks Brothers type but she is not loooking for a Brooks Brothers type. He is way way cool and fun. They are all awesome guys and she has definite connectons with each one. But how dumb to think this has to end in marriage (you are right, whoever said that above)! This should end in her having a great boyfriend, a lot of fun, a chance to say in-your-face to the Brad guy, and forget the requisite marriage-at-the-end. It's so hokey!

[lin]

Graham is adorable and even though she was falling for him, she couldn't accept the real him - he's very quiet and that's who he is. So who was she falling in love with?

[debbieD]

I can't stand Graham and would not watch the Bachelor if he were the one. I never, ever thought he was good looking and have no idea what DeAnna sees in him. He is a macho jerk and seems like he would be the jealous, controlling type. Run away, DeAnna!

[Kim]

We'll..yes..Graham has that shy cuteness about him that women are going to love him. He's hot...and we always want something that is different and he was that. I think she should have keap Graham and took off Jessie.. I mean come on.. He's a nice guy and everything but the question is???Is he really right for DeAnna? NO... as for Jason.. He's a wonderful guy and I think he would be a wonderful husband to DeAnna but what was the real deal with his ex-wife? How could you just pick up and leave your husband and your adorable little boy? Is Deanna realdy to be a step MOM? As for Jeremy..Adorable guy.. He will treat her like a lady and they have so much in common.. I say..bring back Graham and let it be between Graham and Jeremy.. I love watching this show!

[Britt]

I knew it was his time to go tonight, he really had her heart though so I don't understand what kept him from speaking up when he needed to. It absolutely broke my heart when he pulled out his letter--I'm sure after that she was regretting her decision big time. I would really like to see him as the next Bachelor! And if not that at least his hometown is only an hour away..

[peg]

I've lived in NC all my life and think I know every basketball player that comes out of here and I never heard of Graham. He's not in the NBA nor have I heard of him being in any college team. I just don't believe him and why on earth does she think he's cute? He's almost seedy looking.

[Christine]

I CAN'T believe she let him go....my jaw dropped. I would have at least had the overnight w/him. I hoped she would change her mind and beg the show to let her get him back!
Her only choice now is Jeremy.

[Elle]

She is nuts for nixxing Graham. She was totally in love and will now settle for what's good on paper. Graham- sorry buddy. She's an absolute idiot.

[NICHOLE]

HOLLY CRAP!!!!!GRAHAM YOU ARE SOOOOO FINE!!!!!!

Unbelievable mistake for her to let the one person go who she actually seemed to have a connection with. He seems to be a private person who is not suited for TV, but that doesn't change the fact that they seemed to be falling in love. She will be just settling if she chooses one of these other guys without exploring this relationship more.

[NICHOLE]

I cant say I'm disapointed in Deannas choice, now I have a chance with Graham!

[NICHOLE]

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[standing up for Graham]

He used to be a Pro B-ball player but had to stop due to some injuries..that's why you don't notice the name. He now does charity work and is an investor(something in that nature) in the Local Bars like he said on the show.

I want Graham back...

[nikkicole]

I am totally in shock1 I get it but damn girl did you see him I mean really see him,past his looks he didn't know what it meant to fall in love he needed you to teach him He was trying. His pride men and their stupid pride.

[graham crackers]

holy crap!!! what was she thinking???she should of at least had the one nighter with graham and to feel that hot beef of a man behind her backside!!!

[mary o'connell]

oh boy!!she made the WRONG decision!she is in love with him and will never be able to feel that man laying next to her!! speaking for all thewomen...honey, all the "perfect" men will never come close to what that man would have given you in the sack!

[Dr Gayle]

Graham either entered this for publicity, hence his professional photos/headshots on a linked website. Or possibly was open to exploring the possibility of finding someone. If that is the case, he either isn't emotionally mature enough (hense Mom's comments about his past relationships or lack of them and communication) or he simply was not falling for this girl. It would be tough with the limited amount of time spent together. With his lack of communication to her when put on the spot, she's better off still searching. Good Luck to Both

[Debby]

I think he just wasn't that into her & she finally recognized that. He had plenty of opportunities to tell her in any small way to keep him & he didn't take them. He all but but said out loud to let him go. I think combined with her fear of ending up with a guy who couldn't meeet her halfway, she had no choice left. If she wants to be connected to someone at least attempting to meet her halfway, by the finale, she had to cut Graham, because if it wasn't going to be him, he was a distraction to THAT goal.

[isabella]

Today, I feel like I am DeAnna and I just broke up with Graham....My jaw totally dropped. I am still shocked by her decision...however, I think she was afraid that he would be the one to leave her in the end. Why the hell did he give her the letter after the rose ceremony and not before....he would still be here. I am praying that the show takes a turn and graham will appear back on the next episode. Though, why didn't Graham express a little bit how he felt? They way they ended their date was a big let down for DeAnna and should have expressed how upset she was by it too....i feel like they are meant to be and should be together. Now I am rooting for Jeremy I guess.

[Ohio]

I found it strange that DeAnna was practically scolding Graham for not being the man she needed. If he's not, then he is not - regardless of how hot he is.
That was painful to watch. He looked like he would bust out in tears if he bagan to speak. I think he has feelings for her, but he might have someone else. He said that he just got out of that other relationship when they had their first one-on-one at the beach.
I really think that Graham is probably an alcoholic. I know that editing is what makes the show, but he sure did drink a lot! He was cheerful when they first saw each other on this last episode, but when you see him with the drink, he zones out and closes off/shuts down.
I don't think he would have pursued a girl like DeAnna if he met her in real life. Well, maybe he would just for some short term fun, espeically if she threw herself on him like she did in this show.
Great show - hard to watch the guys get so in to her. They will all survive, but Jeremy should really get some professional help with his grief.

[maureen]

First of all I don't think Graham is all that into DeAnna as everyone thinks.... or if he is I bet he contacts her after she has made he choice and she will dump the other guys she chooses on TV and gets with him. We"ll all be reading about it in the tabloid magazines mark my words!!!!I bet he wrote that in the letter to her that he did not want everyone else to see. I think either Jeremy , Jesse or Jason would make a great next Bachelor. DeAnna screwed herself because even if she winds up with any of those guys they will always think they were her second choice and she just settled because she admitted that Graham was the only one she was truly falling in love with. They will all feel like SHE strung them along and that she used them. This is why men are bitter and wind using other women and hurt them because he is so messed up in the head.

[Cheri]

Bawled my eyes out when she let Graham go. He really cared about her but you could tell he had trouble talking to her with a camera in his face, that is why he wrote her the letter. Broke my heart watching it and I know it did hers too seems like.. Now I want her with Jesse or Jason - Jeremy is a tool.

[Putorium]

Being a 65 year old mom and grandmother with 2 bachelor shows I watch to see why they are? My gut feeling was that Graham was not totally into DeAnna for whatever reason? Also why doesn't the show say what Grahams work really is now? Not so sure DeAnna has found her guy? Time will tell?